When Kyle was a junior in high school, we gave him a debit card attached to a joint checking account and deposited an "allowance" into it monthly. The intent was to get him used to budgeting money--From that point on, if he wanted money for a movie, sporting event, expensive clothing, gas for his car (school was a 20-minute commute), lunch with friends, etc. he had to use that money. It's worked out beautifully.
When Kyle started college, we figured that his being a poor college kid and all, we should continue to give him an "allowance," especially because we cannot afford to pay for his college tuition. He also has a part time job for spending money and can come home any time he wants to eat, so he's making it just fine.
Starting in April, my salary is going to be taking a pretty good hit, and we have to find some serious ways to cut back. I told Kyle yesterday that although I don't want to, we're going to have to stop giving him the allowance. He's an adult now and will have to stand on his own feet financially.
So, what was Kyle's response to this announcement? Did he cry, "What?! That's not right!! You said you'd give me that money, so now you have to! I don't care if you don't have it in your budget--You have to pay me!" Did he picket out front or organize a rally in which he screamed, "This is the end! I'm fighting for my rights and the rights of my future children, who will lose weekends and probably have to work even harder for the rest of their lives!"?
No. He said he understood. I didn't even have to explain to him that Mr.4444 and I never had the benefit of a monthly allowance from our parents. I told him we'll probably still fill his gas tank now and then and feed him, of course, whenever he wants to come home. We're still going to pay for his car insurance and might even give him a birthday present. He says he's not going to disown us.
I just hope we can keep this off the evening news!